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When the Question ‘How Are You?’ is a Painful Reminder


Think of your least favorite topic to talk about. Something that brings up pain, sadness, shame, confusion and anxiety. Maybe you are in debt, your relationship just ended, your parents got divorced, etc. Now imagine all of your conversations started with this subject.

 At work, at home, with friends  — always. “Hey, how are your finances?” “So, how do you feel about your parents’ divorce today?” It can feel like that when you have a chronic (physical or mental) illness.

 I’m not saying I want people to stop asking me how I am. But it’s good to be aware that this is no longer a simple, innocent question to ask me. It can trigger a lot of painful thoughts and emotions.

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